Big Moment.

I did something today that I guess my Mom thought made me like my Dad, and she turns to me and says, “Are you sure your name is Blake, not Steve?”  Steve is my Dad’s name.  I smile, and answer, “Mom, you just realized what you’ve done?  You’ve opened a wormhole.”

“What?”

“You called me Blake.”

“Well yeah, I called you Blake. 
That’s what you want to be called, isn’t it? Blake Ryan?”

“Well, you don’t have to add the middle name, I’m not in trouble.”  I smile.

“You feel like you are Blake right?”  I nod.  “That’s who you are.  In the 3 weeks that you’ve been here, I’ve realized that Blake is here to stay, and Trish isn’t coming back.  And that’s okay, I guess.  I guess it’s something we need to live with because I just want you to be happy, you know.  I don’t want you to feel like you aren’t welcome in your parents house.  Or that when we go to see your Grandparents for Christmas this year, that you need to make up excuses on why you can’t come, or that when you do go that you have to pretend to be Trish for us.  Blake’s a pretty cool kid.  I’m not saying flaunt being a transgender, flaunt being Blake, because that’s kind of obnoxious, not that you are doing that, but just be Blake and they’ll come around.  You’re still a part of our family.”

“So, does that mean you’re cool with it, with me being Blake?”

“Well, I’ve accepted it.  It’s not what I would have chosen for you.  Because there can be really cruel people out there and I can’t imagine physically transitioning is easy.  But I love you, you’re my child.  That doesn’t change even if your gender does.  But I’m still the same on I’m not paying for a sex change if you decide to go that route.  If you want something bad enough, you can work for it.”


So that, my friends, is my big moment.

I just want to let everyone know, that there are people that surprise you, every day.  There are people out there who accept you no matter who you are.  I know it can seem rare when you are hurting.  Hell, a month ago, my parents told me I was no longer their child and you can see how they've come around.  There are good things in the world, even when things seem so hard and cruel and you just want to give up.  Please don't, please hold on.